A meaningful funeral service accomplishes three things: it accurately reflects the life of the deceased, it meets the needs of the family, and three – it meets the needs of the community.
I like to ask leading questions. “Tell me about your mother, your father, your loved one. What are some words to describe them?” Finding out about the person’s personality, their values, their beliefs, their character are things that will come out in the service.
Listening, taking the story, flushing it out in creative ways, using our own skill and experience sometimes to add a little bit of something that the family didn’t expect, makes it very meaningful.
Um, we’ve, we’ve driven a motorcycle right into the chapel. And, uh, fellow’s business partner, uh, got off, went down, sat down. And everybody’s jaws were, had dropped because this was him.
We did a service…two services 5 days apart for an elderly couple. And at her funeral, eighteen grand children and great-grand children laid a coral-coloured rose next to her urn and her picture. Five days later, at her husband’s funeral, the same group, uh, had a level, a hammer, a plier, a screw driver and they came up and filled “Mr. Fix-it’s” toolbox at the front. And they just paused at the tool box. Some had tears in their eyes, some, you could see their lips moving, “Bye, Papa,” and it was, it was a personal way of getting involved in the service without having to stand up and say something.
We want the funeral to be about the person. We want it to be personal. So by finding out about this person, and what they were like, we are here to help you find a way to honour their life.