We Remember
ASHBY, Mona Joyce
July 8, 1931 — June 22, 2023
Mona Ashby passed away peacefully on June 22, 2023, with her loving family beside her as the warm White Rock summer day came to an end. Mona was a truly special mother, grandmother, great-grandmother, sister, and loving wife, who leaves behind so many wonderful memories to cherish.
Born on July 8, 1931, in Neemuch, India, Mona moved to Santa Cruz, India with her family when she was a small child. Mona would often reminisce about her time in Santa Cruz, playing in the ocean at Juhu beach, and her upbringing at the Saint Teresa’s Convent where, from an early age, her zest for life often resulted in a trip to Mother Superior’s Office. Mona attended Saint Teresa’s convent until she graduated and moved to Leicester, U.K. in her late teens to live with close family friends. Aunty Pearl, Uncle Terrance, June, and Val quickly became a second family to Mona.
It was in Leicester where Mona met the love of her life, Frank Ashby, who was stationed in the U.K. at the North Luffenham Air Force base shortly after the war. They met at a dance held on the base, and it was love at first site. Frank proposed on February 14, 1954, and they were married four months later on June 12, 1954. Shortly after they were married, Frank was transferred to Marville, France where they lived prior to being sent to Montreal, QC in 1957. It was here that Debra was born, in 1960, and their family started. In 1961, they were transferred once again, to CFB Greenwood, NS where a year later in Middleton, Gary was born and the family was complete. Frank retired from the Royal Canadian Air Force in 1968 and moved the family to Kelowna, their forever home.
Frank predeceases Mona; as do siblings Gerald, Sheila, and Trevor. She is survived by her children: Debra (Dave) and Gary (Connie); grandchildren: Jennifer (Brandon), Sarah (Joel), Bradley, and Gregory; great grandchildren: Ava, Ellis, and Isla; sister: Jean McCarthy; and nieces: Michelle (Darren, and their children Matt and Nick), and Christel (Claus).
Mona was happiest in her kitchen on Pandosy Street, preparing bottomless meals for family and friends, where all were welcome with a glowing smile and a big hug at any hour of the day. Mona’s favorite recipes, such as hamburger cupcakes, upside down pineapple cake, and chicken wings, would be prepared well in advance and ready to be served to guests at a moment’s notice. Mona always ate last, and was the epitome of selflessness – she spent her life in service to her family and friends.
With the arrival of grandchildren and great grandchildren, Mona found endless energy to feed, entertain, and care for new generations of family members looking up to her. No activity was ever out of bounds for her grandkids, who spent countless Kelowna summer days at the beach, Flintstones Park, Old MacDonald’s Farm, or feeding the ducks at Mill Creek before camping out in the back yard, surrounded by her garden, seemingly forever in bloom.
Mona will be missed with immense heartache and a longing to see her once again, sitting on her porch on Pandosy Street on a warm summer evening with a radiant smile, waiting for her family to arrive.
There will be a small family memorial when Mona is placed alongside her beloved Frank at the Kelowna Cemetery. In lieu of flowers, donations can be made in Mona’s name to the charity of your choice.
Rest in peace, GG.
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Deb and Family
What a nice tribute to your mom. She was a regular at Safeway and always had time to chat when I was there. Sending love and hugs as we too know the void left by the loss of a mother.
Brenda Bentien (Osti)
Thanks Brenda .. she loved Safeway and would often phone me and say she say you there ..
Spent many enjoyable years with Mona at the Legion on Ellis St with my Gran Nora Smith and my Mom Phyllis Jefferies. RIP MONA.
I recall your gran .. sweet lady . Yes the Legion was hub of activity
Mona will be greatly missed by all who knew and loved her. My condolences to her family. She was loving and kind with a great sense of humor. I will always be thinking of you. Mardi Amrein
Thanks Mardi
She certainly had a great sense of humour.. we will miss her so much …
Dear Debra and Family. Your mom was such a bright light. When she resided at Fernbrae and I was visiting my mom I so enjoyed having our little chats and talking about our families etc. She always looked out for my mom at Fernbrae, and brought her ice cream or muffins if wasn’t feeling well. And gave me warm hugs. Her smile lite up the room. She adored her family. Forever in your hearts always. Hugs and love Linda
Linda
My friend .., beautiful memories of mom .. thank you … she loved to help others ..
What an incredibly special lady your Mom was! She was so proud of her wonderful family, whom we know she cherished deeply as she loved to share stories and accomplishments about each and every one of you every chance she had, but she also had this way of making all of us feel like we were like family too – how lucky were we to be so fortunate to receive this kind of gift! We loved being Mona’s neighbour, continuing on the wonderful friendship my Mom and Dad enjoyed with your Mom, Dad and Auntie Sheila for so many years. I know my Mom and Dad had such a strong connection with all three of them – that’s pretty special. We will always remember the sound of Mona’s beautiful laughter, her wonderful warmth, and those twinkling eyes! Evertime we see tall sunflowers, we will be reminded of a very special angel above who will continue to watch over all of the goings on of her special people. And who can’t smile at that?!? Sending so many hugs your way, Debra and Dave, Gary and Connie and all of your families.
Jen, Paul Reid and Danielle Klotz. Xoxo
Very sorry to hear Mona’s passing. I had the chance to meet Mona while working at Orchard Gardens Kelowna
Mona was a lovely kind lady. She will be missed so much