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CRUX-AMEY, Violet May “Betty” (née Smith)

May 23, 1925 — August 25, 2023

Betty Crux Amey was born on May 23, 1925, in Lakeview, ON and passed away peacefully on August 25, 2023, in Kelowna, BC.

Throughout her life, Betty enjoyed working/serving her community and church in several positions.  She worked as an LPN in Sarnia, ON; Burnaby, BC; and Quesnel, BC.  She served as church secretary in the Penticton SDA (Seventh-day Adventist) Church for several years, and then served in Community Services for the Rutland SDA Church.  Betty was especially known for her ministry of sending out cards and visiting those members who were unable to attend church.  Her warmth and welcoming nature attested to her Christ-like character.

As one of nine children born to Arthur and Harriet Smith in Lakeview, Ontario, Betty knew the love and support of a large family. Betty met her husband, Bob Crux, in the early 1940s when her mother held Branch Sabbath School meetings in her home in Lakeview. Coincidentally, Betty would later take piano lessons from Bob’s mother. While Bob was starting his career with Canadian National Railway, Betty took training to obtain her LPN credentials.  In 1948, they would marry and move to the Bright’s Grove/Sarnia area, where they raised their four children and became members of the Sarnia SDA Church.  Living close to the Lake Huron beach provided wonderful memories for family and friends who visited their home those summers in the 1950s and early 1960s.  Many years later following Bob’s death, Betty would meet Joe Amey in Kelowna, BC, who became a wonderful husband to her for the two short years (2018-20) they were married before Joe’s passing.

In 1993, Betty was predeceased by her first husband, Robert “Bob” Donald Crux and her second husband Joseph “Joe” Amey in 2020; her parents, Arthur & Harriet Smith; and her grandson, Thomas Wayne Haluschak in 1984.

Betty is survived by her sister Joan (née Smith) Tousley; her four children and their spouses, Robert (Sharon) Crux, Beverley (Cameron) Haluschak, Sharon (Carlo) Crux Rasi, and Susan (Randall) Wilkinson; stepdaughter Marilyn (Jacques Belleau) Amey; grandchildren, Kimberly, Rob, Jenna, Susie, Aaron, Ben, Eden, Denver, and Shannon; great-grandchildren, Ashlyn, Emily, Evelyn, Farrah, Callie, Hannah, Lucy, Daniel, Jackson, Jameson, Avery, and Noah.

The loss of Betty runs deep, but the promise of a restored life on that resurrection morning brings hope and joy for both family and friends.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the Kelowna General Hospital Neonatal Intensive Care Unit, in gratitude for the care received for her great-grandson and two great-granddaughters.

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  • Dudley says:

    I Remember Betty and Bob fondly as members here in Penticton …. a statley, polite always smiling woman , I am sad at her passing but look forward to seeing this wonderful woman in the new Jerusalem..

  • Connie Kiefiuk says:

    As a member of the Penticton SDA Church, I knew Betty well. She was such a lovely, precious lady, inside and out I have never forgotten her and did touch base with her occasionally on Facebook. Her’s was a life well lived. Looking forward to that grand reunion. My sincere condolences to all her family.

  • Vance and Judy peters says:

    Sorry to hear of your loss, may God be with all of you.

  • Maryann Fiske says:

    Dear Sharon. I am so saddened to hear of your Mom’s passing while I marvel at her long and fullsome life. Please take care of yourself and find peace among the large and loving family she left behind. Maryann.

  • Lynn (Ritchey) Rhynard says:

    I’m so sorry to hear of your loss! Betty was such a lovely lady and was a good friend to my mom, Claire. We lost our precious mom also just a few months after Betty’s passing. These special moms, grandmother’s, great grandmother’s and friends will remain in our hearts! What treasures they were, what a legacy they left and how blessed we were to have had them in our lives! What an amazing reunion coming soon! In the meantime may God give you His strength, peace and comfort for each day as you miss dear Betty!
    Heartfelt sympathies,

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