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DUKELOW, James Benson

January 1, 1970 — January 1, 1970

Dr James Benson Dukelow passed away on Sunday April 1st in his 86th year with loving family at his side.


Jim is survived by his four children, Brenda (Bob), Gary (Kathy), Kim (Phil) and Mike.  Jim was loved and respected by his eight grandchildren Maggie, Michael, Libby, Meg, Brock, Zavier, Alisha and Janine.  Jim leaves a sister Dorothy in Winnipeg, as well as five nieces and nephews and their families.

He was predeceased by another sister Winnie and most recently his loving wife of 56 years, Jean.  Jim’s loving care of Jean during her illness was a testament to his ability to love and care for others.


Jim graduated from the University of Manitoba with his Medical Degree and settled in Kelowna as an Obstetrician and Gynecologist in 1961, after practising in The Pas, Terrace and Vancouver.  For Dad, medicine was a way of life that was fueled by his fascination and curiosity in the mysteries of life.  He was a scientist, an artist, a life-long learner, a mentor and a devoted friend.


Dad loved 45 summers at the lake and enjoyed travelling with Jean, family and friends over many years.  His most recent adventure was to London in 2011 with Kim.


Jim will forever be remembered for his patience, gentle nature, sage wisdom, youthful enthusiasm and pride in a job done well.  He inspires us every day.


A Celebration of Jim’s life will be held on Saturday, April 7th at 11:00 am at the First United Church, 721 Bernard Avenue, Kelowna, BC.  In lieu of flowers donations can be made to the Kelowna Food Bank. 

Saturday, April 7th at 11:00 am

First United Church

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The service for DUKELOW, James Benson is scheduled for Saturday, April 7th at 11:00 am. Below you will find the map for the service location and the contact information should you have any questions.

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First United Church

721 Bernard Avenue Kelowna, BC


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  • Jeanine says:

    My sympathies to your family. Dr Dukelow was a quiet and comforting man in all the years he was my doctor. He had a calming mannerism like no other.

  • David and Diane Bell says:

    Kim and Family,
    So sorry to hear of your Dad’s passing. We know he was a special person to all of you. Our thoughts are with you at this time.
    Dave and Diane

  • Carol McFadyen says:

    Dr. Dukelow delivered my first child 36 years ago and I also knew him professionally as a nursing instructor on Obstetrics. He was always so kind and gentle. I admired him greatly. My sympathies to the family in this great loss.

  • Frank and Sue de Freitas says:

    Sue and I wish to convey our deeply felt condolences to Jim’s family. We echo the spirit of the obituary that Jim was one of a kind. Rest in peace Jim.

  • Linda And Daryle Edstrom says:

    I had the pleasure of meeting Dr. Dukelow in the early eighties. I had spoken to the emergency Dr. at KGH as I was having a miscarriage and to be honest from his mannerisms on the phone I was very apprehensive. Once I arrived at the hospital and was accessed, Dr. Dukelow was assigned to my case. He brought such warmth, kindness and comfort into the room and I turned to my husband and said I feel like I have my own personal Marcus Welby MD. I was so blessed that day to have met him.

  • Arlene Tuttle says:

    Dear Kim and all the family,
    My sincere condolences on the passing of your extraordinarily special father. Jim and Jean welcomed us so warmly when we moved to the Lake, and we enjoyed their friendship so much. Jim was such a wise caring friend. We are all blessed for having known him. My thoughts are with you all. He will rest in peace.

  • Peggy & Peter says:

    Kim and family
    I of course remember your Dad best from our trip to London last fall. It was a wonderful trip and your Dad was so much fun to be with. I remember that his energy and curiosity were amazing. He did not want to miss one thing! I know how much your Dad meant to you. Our thoughts and prayers are with you, Phil, and the family .

  • MaryAnne & family says:

    I met Jim when I had problems with my first pregnancy. Then when we moved to the Mission, he and Jean were my neighbours. I ran into Jim before Xmas and mentioned the time my daughter invited he and Jean for dinner. We both laughed at that as my daughter never told me, it was Jean who told me when I ran into her and Jim one day. He was a kind and gentle man who I will always remember. Our thoughts and prayers and with the family.

  • Jeanette and Michael MacIntyre says:

    Dear Kim & family,

    So sorry to hear of your father’s passing. I only met him once but I truly remember how kind a manner he had and, in particular, I remember talking to him about his art and how proudly he talked about your artistic talent. I know you will miss him terribly. Our sincerest condolences to you, Phil, your children and all of your family.
    Jeanette, Michael, Jessie and Josh

  • Judith Wagner says:

    Dr. Dukelow tended to me when I had my first child in 1961. He replaced Dr. Anderson who couldn’t be there. I always liked him and met him socially a couple of times later. A very nice man.

  • jennifer mills says:

    I was so sorry to hear of Jim’s passing. I got to know both him and Jean very well while working at VMC. Both of them were very special people and Jim was always so loving, encouraging and supportive of his wife. They raised a beautiful family together and we always enjoyed seeing you all when you came to visit Jean and we witnessed the very strong love in your family. Jim’s regular visits to VMC will be missed as well as his gentle spirit and friendships with everyone.

  • ingrid lysne says:

    I am very sorry to hear of your loss. my thoughts and prayers are with you. sincerely, Ingrid Lysne

  • Kristina Court says:

    Dr. Dukelow was my mother’s doctor at the time of my birth. I thank him for his efforts to get me into this world… and may his journey home be peaceful and loving. RIP. And Thank You.

  • Charlie & Penny Harris says:

    There are tears for Jim on the soil in Thailand. We are very sorry that we are so far away at this time.

    This is a very sad time for many people, especially his very special, loving family. We’re sure you will all come together and be a great comfort to each other.  We  wish we could make it to the funeral.

    Jim was an absolutely wonderful man. Like many others, we are sure going to miss him. We always admired and appreciated his wisdom. He didn’t paint the Mona Lisa. He didn’t discover insulin. No, all Jim ever did was raise an amazing family and epitomize the goodness of humanity. He was a truly great man. 

    We are sure glad we had dinner and a good visit with Jim before we left. Jim and Jean were two of the kindest and most wonderful people we have ever had the good fortune to know. 

    So very, very sad. Life at the lake will never be the same.

    “That’s far enough, Charlie…”

    (For those who don’t know, that was Jim’s quiet voice from the end of his dock while watching Charlie swim out to meet the
    morning sun. A precious little memory never to be forgotten.)

  • Jill & Stephen Plummer says:

    Dear Kim, Phil and family

    We felt so privileged to have had the opportunity to meet your dad as he truly was the epitome of a wonderful husband, father and grandfather, so thoughtful, caring and true gentleman. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all at this very sorrowful time.
    Jill & Stephen

  • Jim and Dixie Holmes says:

    To the extended Dukelow family.
    We would like to extend our condolences on Jim’s death, and to tell you how much we admired and respected your parents. They were good friends and role models for us to follow in building a good family. Jim was a deeply respected collegue and friend. We share your loss but we also rejoice with you in his long and very well lived life.
    We regret that we will not be at his service as the time conflicts with our annual Easter egg hunt at our cabin with most of our family (16 in all) We think that Jim and Jean, of all the people we know, would understand completely!
    Jim and Dixie Holmes

  • brodie anderson says:

    All the extended family to the east will sadly miss Jim. Find strength in the ways your father and friend lit the way for all of us. Jim has now found his own peace in the place his soul mate waits for him.

  • Howard Aldous says:

    It was 35 years ago, while I was an OB. resident and away from my own family at Christmas, that Jim asked me to join his family for dinner. A kindness I have always cherished.
    Jim was of a like ilk with others such as Walter Anderson and Frank McNair,a truly gentle man.It was an honour to know him.

  • Linda Craig says:

    I am thinking of you all at this time, and am remembering with the greatest of respect and fondness, my Uncle Jim.
    Love, Linda

  • Craig & Jan Tomash says:

    No time on earth is long enough to share with those we love to prepare our hearts to say goodbye.

    We will miss Jim very much, Jan worked with Jim at KGH in the 1980’s and over the past 15 years have kept in touch through social events and the Rusty Nail Book Club, which Jim enjoyed immensely.

    He is a very special spirit who will not be forgotten…

    Craig & Jan

  • Sandy Kavanagh says:

    In November of 1980 I met Dr Dukelow when he was on call and I lay very ill after the birth of my first child. The moment I met him I knew I would live. He took over my care and not only did everything right but followed me every day after that while I was in hospital.Dr Dukelow was never afraid to do what was right no matter what others thought. God Bless you Jim. You were an angel who walked among us.Thank you for your kindness and compassion.
    To his family I am happy to hear that he shared a wonderful retirement with you and sorry for your loss at this time.

  • Karen Todd says:

    Dear Dukelow family.

    I was very saddened to hear of the passing of Dr. Dukelow. I have very fond memories of Jim, Jean and their family as a small girl (especially being wrestled by Mike and Gary!) and will cherish those for many years to come. Dr. Dukelow was a kind and gentle man who delivered both myself and my sister. I know that our family, and especially my parents, will always have a special place in their heart for Jim and Jean.

    My sympathies to the Dukelow family at this time.

    Karen Todd

  • Kathy Dolman says:

    Brenda. when I was a very young teacher (19) just starting my career at Okanagan Mission Primary, I remember the help and support from your Dad and Mom. It was wonderful to have Known them and I remember those times with gratitude. You were a great kid as well!

  • Karen Smith-McCune says:

    I am thinking of you all today and keeping Jim in my thoughts. We were touched by Jean and Jim’s kindness and laughter when they visited us in Redwood City many years ago and when we saw them for Dad’s (Don Smith) 80th birthday party in Toronto in 2004. I looked forward to his hand-painted Christmas cards. I still remember watching him and Jean sharing a chuckle together over a cartoon in the paper while they were here in California. And it was special to me that I ended up choosing the same specialty as his- Obstetrics and Gynecology. He gave me some helpful tips and moral support during my residency. Love from Karen and Mike in San Francisco

  • Gavin Granger says:

    Very sorry for your loss.


  • Craig & Jan Tomash says:

    We wished to let you know that the Rusty Nail Book Club sends our most heartfelt sympathies to your family on the loss of your Dad, Grandpa and friend!

    We loved having Jim as part of our book club which was started around 2005/06 by Dr. Glenn Benoit who moved here from Winnipeg and took over your Dad’s practice when he retired.

    Members of our group:

    Dr. Glenn Benoit (OB/GYN)
    Dr. Peter Wilson (OB/GYN)
    Dr. Simon Pethick (Anesthesiologist)
    Jeff McGregor (husband to OB/GYN)
    Clive Robb (GP)
    Craig Tomash (RCMP)friend to the Doc’s and Jeff! My wife Jan(RN) worked with all the OB/GYN’s including your Dad in the 80’s.

    Your Dad was such an inspiration to us all; his humor, quiet demeanor, loyal friendship and sage advise was a special addition to our meetings. He took a keen interest in each of us and our lives!

    And yes, we did notice that Jim was the only member of our book club who actually “did” finish all of the Club’s selected readings!

    We sadly missed Jim at our last meeting on March 27th; your Dad called me and apologized for not being able to attend as he was not feeling well.

    Jim will be truly missed by us all and we have talked about making “Catcher in the Rye” our next reading in memory of our dear friend!

    We are all a little better and a lot wiser for having your Dad as a part of our lives. Jim truly touched us all….

    We wish you our deepest sympathies.

    Craig for The Rusty Nail Book Club

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