We Remember

MAILEY, Barbara

1936 – 2020

It is with deep sorrow and love that we announce the passing of Barbara Mailey (née Pattle) in Kelowna, British Columbia on August 18, 2020 at the age of 83. Barbara passed peacefully in the morning surrounded by family and holding the hand of her beloved husband Richard Mailey.

Barbara will be deeply missed by her five children: David (Patricia), Beth (Ron), Carrie, John (Geno), and Paul (Adrienne); her daughter-in-law Laurie; her thirteen grandchildren: Jason, Jeremy, Richard, Peter, Krystina, Korey, Brandon, Kyle, Andrew, Matthew, Shauna, Kaleb and Lupita; her eight great-grandchildren, with one on the way; and her many nieces and nephews.

Barbara was born in Windsor, Ontario on November 5, 1936 to William and Ella Pattle. She was the much-doted-on youngest sibling of Basil, Robert and Corinne. Barb attended St. Mary’s Academy and prior to her graduation at the age of 17 met a young Irishman who would soon become her husband and best friend. Rick and Barb were married on May 17, 1957 at St. Andrew’s Presbyterian church in Windsor, Ontario and moved to Sarnia, Ontario where they raised their five children. Barb proudly returned to school to pursue her passion of nursing and graduated from the St. Clair School of Nursing in 1971. She had a great love of animals (Riley, Joe, Cavey), travel, and took pride in maintaining a beautiful and welcoming home for all the family to enjoy. Barb spent many years at her second home in Carefree, Arizona where she and Rick made many friends. She flourished at being a grandmother and spent a great deal of time planning holidays for her grandchildren to enjoy. In 1999, Barb and Rick relocated to Kelowna, BC to join with family. They spent their golden years continuing to grow in love with each other more and more with every passing day.

In lieu of flowers, please make a donation to the Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals (SPCA), spca.bc.ca.

A Celebration of Life will be held to honour Barbara, due to the current pandemic restrictions it will be by invitation only. However, the family would like to invite all who would like to pay their respects to join by livestream on Saturday, September 19, 2020, at 1:00 PM.

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Barbara Mailey’s Photo Book


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  • Michael J.E.CRAIGEN says:

    A sad loss for the Mailey family

  • Myrna Wilde says:

    Dear Rick and family,
    We are still in disbelief about Barb’s passing. We were so blessed when we moved into the neighbourhood to have Rick and Barb as neighbours. Barb was such a true lady, so gracious and warm and just such a beautiful person. She touched many people and she will live on in beautiful memories that we will all cherish. Our most sincere sympathy to each of you.

    Love and hugs,
    Myrna & Ted

  • Michaele Morgan says:

    So sorry Carrie and family for the lost of your dear mother. Thinking of you during this difficult time.

  • Donanne Avery says:

    Dear Rick and family, I am so sorry to learn of Barb’s passing. Although we have lost touch over the years, I have fond memories of the wonderful times at horse shows with our children. May God cover you in a cloak of comfort and peace. Donanne (the late Chuck)

  • Pearl and Wilf Solanik says:

    We loved visits with Barb and Rick next door and Carefree over 20 years and will miss her dearly not going with them to the White Spot for breakfasts. She loved her family and was most grateful. Our deepest sympathy is extender to Rick and her family

  • LIN & Mike Breakey says:

    Our deepest sympathy Paul to you and your family on the loss of your mother. May your memories keep her spirit alive .

    • Imed kharrat says:

      My dear Richard. With a broken heart for the loss of your grandmother I feel this pain in you because you know I lost my father also in this 2020 I pray to god for their souls.

  • Annice Bale says:

    It’s difficult to know where to start when I have just lost my dearest friend of 68 years, so I’ll start at the beginning. Barb and I met in 1953 when we both were enrolled at St. Mary’s Academy in Windsor, Ontario. Here we were, two protestant girls, sent to a catholic boarding school where we lived 24/7!! I lived approximately 600 miles north in a little mining town called Kirkland Lake, Barb and I became friends immediately. We talked not long ago about the weekends we would stay with Bob and Rita, or my grandparents who lived in Detroit. We would go over to Detroit on shopping binges on Woodward Avenue, mostly to buy “spikes” as high heels were referred to in those days. Barbara travelled up to Kirkland Lake with me on two occasions through those three years, where my parents welcomed her as if she were part of our family, which we thought of her as. The last year at boarding school Barb met Rick and she moved back home and became a “day” student at the academy. I would watch out my dorm. window and would wave as she got into Rick’s car. We saw each other through the ensuing years, including a visit to Carefree, Arizona. For the last couple of years we would take turns calling each other every two weeks We did have the opportunity to visit when she came down to Toronto to visit her sister Corrine. What wonderful reunion it was. . The last time we talked two days after she got home from her surgery. The last thing we said to each other was “Love you”.

  • Simi and Patrick says:

    I’ll never forget the kindness and warmth I felt when I visited the Mailey home for the first time. I still remember the wonderful flannel bedsheets she insisted Krystina and I slept in when we visited Kelowna! Our thoughts are with all of you during this time. Gigi will be greatly missed.
    Love Simi & Patrick

  • CarolAnne Brown says:

    *Dear Rick and family so sorry to hear of Barbs passing please accept my families deepest sympathy, I know how hard this is as we lost Gerry on Mar 24th 2017 So I am presently staying with Larry in Corunna, hope all goes well for you and your family Rick ,take care .

  • Imed kharrat says:

    My dear richard. with a broken heart for the loss of your grandmother i feel this pain in you because you know i lost my father also in this 2020 i pray to god for their souls.

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