We Remember

ONGARO, Max Louie
November 19, 1938 — May 7, 2020
Max Louie Ongaro peacefully passed into the arms of his heavenly Father on May 7th, 2020 after a very brief decline in health.
If the way Max’s warmth, smile and kindness toward every person he met was ever measured against the saying by Robert Ingersol, “We rise by lifting others”, those who knew Max would probably agree he could have landed on the moon. One of Max’s greatest joys was to brighten someone’s day with a greeting and, up until October 2018, many who worked in the Landmark District of Kelowna could attest to this.
Max was born November 19, 1938 in Summerland, British Columbia to Carmelo and Mary Ongaro (née Betuzzi). They and their families were Italian immigrants, happy to be making new lives in Canada. Max has a younger sister, Jo-Ann and a large extended family. Max grew up surrounded by people who knew the value of faith, family, working together, having fun and being a supportive community.
After his schooling in Summerland, Max worked on a couple different projects like the construction of the Okanagan Lake Provincial Park Campgrounds before moving to Toronto to continue his post-secondary education. His plan was always to return to the Okanagan Valley, both for the surroundings but mostly for his family. He was educated in electronics engineering and business administration. He worked at Collins Radio and eventually IBM.
It was in Toronto that Max met a French-Canadian beauty, he called “Joanie”. They were married in 1963 in Mattawa, Ontario, Joan’s hometown and enjoyed a loving 51-year zany and zesty life-long companionship. In 1968 Max and Joan moved to Rutland, B.C. where they could be closer to Max’s family. Max began an over 20-year career with White Trucks, eventually known as Western Star Trucks. Max and Joan raised their three children: Denise (Monty) Scott, Dana (Doug) Howe and Dean (Christine) Ongaro.
Max was predeceased by his parents Carmelo and Mary Ongaro. Max will be missed by his sister Jo-Ann, brother-in- law (Tom) Knight and their daughters Margaret Knight & Karen (Correy) McWhirter. Max’s passing is also felt by the countless cousins he grew up with from the Leardo, Betuzzi, Biollo, Blagborne and Grant families. Max was also a beloved brother-in-law to Joan’s family and will be missed by her siblings and their families: Jean (Peter) Harcus, Jesse Lance (Johanne), Anita Turcotte, Earl Turcotte (Anna), Colette (Peter) Stanisci, Michael (Rhonda) Turcotte, brother-in-law Mike Westley, and Glenn (Deborah) Turcotte. He will also be lovingly remembered by his many friends and those who asked or considered him to be their Dad, Uncle or Grandpa over the years, a great privilege Max held very close to his heart.
In 1997 Max and Joan started a new life in Fort St. John, B.C. They made many good friends and adopted 3 grandchildren. In 2003 Max retired from Peacock Inc. so he and Joan could return to Kelowna, back with their family again, and travel. Later, Max came out of retirement a couple times but in October 2018, just before his 80th birthday, Max retired for the last time after coordinating the parking at the Landmark Buildings for several years. There he very much enjoyed being part of the team at ASC Construction where he enjoyed the camaraderie and was treated with great honour.
In the midst of all this, Max saw his family grow to include 12 grandchildren and 6 great grandchildren. Max loved playing with all of them and was the type of Papa, Grandpa, and GGP (Great-Grandpapa) that would get right down on the floor to play.
Over the years, Max and Joan were involved with many Christian communities including: Holy Spirit Catholic Parish, Cursillo, Full Gospel Businessmen’s Association, COR, New Life Church, Christian Life Assembly (Fort St. John), Epic City Church and Kelowna Gospel Fellowship.
Being extroverts, Max and Joan also loved hosting and attending large parties and having guests in their home over the decades. He loved gardening, doing projects with his friends, skiing, fishing, hunting and kayaking. If Max was with people, he was happy. Max was known for his genuine accepting smile and kindness. He was supportive, encouraging and could see past people’s hostility, remaining calm and patient in all kinds of situations. Max’s greatest joy and desire was to see his family grow in relationship with Jesus Christ and that others would experience the love of God through him.
In light of present circumstances, a private service was held and live streamed on May 9th, 2020, officiated by James Beamish (see link below). On May 11, 2020 Max was interned with Joan at Kelowna Memorial Park Cemetery, 1991 Bernard Ave., Section G2; Block 21; Row 1; Lot 1. Click here for a map of the Kelowna Memorial Park Cemetery.
For those who wish to give in memory of Max, he enjoyed opportunities to support Hope for The Nations, Freedom’s Door Kelowna and Okanagan Valley Pregnancy Care Center.
Our deepest gratitude goes out Dr. Grant Smith and the teams at Cara Center and Spring Valley Care Centre. Your skilled, respectful, and compassionate care our Dad and our family could not be more appreciated.
For those who would like an opportunity to see the Celebration of Max’s Life please click here, or on the live stream video below. If you wish to send a condolence, post photos or share a memory, please scroll down the page to the area called “Condolences”.
Hello Denise, Dana, Dean and Families:
We are so sorry to hear of your Dad’s passing. We have many fond memories of your Dad, he will be missed,
Our Condolences to everyone.
Love,
Mark and Jennifer Betuzzi
He was more than a cousin and childhood playmate to me. Max was a genuinely good man whom I appreciated as a fine husband, wonderful father and lifelong friend. My very best condolences to all the family.
Denise, Dana & Dean and families. You will miss your father and his wonderful stories about you kids and your mom, Joan. Such a rich life with so many wonderful memories. Our condolences go out to you. Love from the Stanisci Family, Colette, Peter, Paul, Erica, Colton, Nathan, Anthony & Dan
Hi Family, I’m sending my condolences for the loss of Maxie your supportive, loving, kind and gentile father. He was a good and solid man living the virtues of a true male, strength wrapped around gentelness. I hold my memories of him in my heart from our youth. I wish you all Love, Light and Blessings on your paths forward. Amerigo
To Denise Dana Dean and all of your families:
We are so sorry to hear of your loss. We will miss Max and his kind and gentle spirit. Our thoughts are with you…
Much love,
Jane and Gerry
Denise, Dana & Dean, sending you our sincere condolences. Max was a lovely man, father, grandfather and friend, we will all miss him alot.
Love Johanne and Jess
Our deepest and heartfelt condolences to Denise, Dana, Dean and their families. Uncle Max was a kind, gentle and caring person. He was always a pleasure to talk to and be around. He will be missed and I have only good memories of him as I do of your mom my auntie Joan. They are together now and that he passed peacefully and comfortably is a small bit of comfort to you.
With great sympathy,
Mike & Alison Harcus
Like pennies from Heaven may the rich memories of the loving life Max lived and his dedication to the Lord, bring comfort and sincere peace to his devoted family. We will miss this saintly man. My love and prayers, Marie Rolfe.
A life well lived! Good son, husband, parent, and man. My Mom (Auntie Anne) was so fond of him, too. I was younger (not by that much) but still have so many lovely memories. He played music and skied well. I loved his wedding reception in BC; I poured coffee and felt so grown up. He gave us a wonderful tour of the White Star Truck facility; I learned so much. I am very grateful that Max and I had a good visit together last summer at the family reunion. Wishing you all peace and healing and sending my love, Heather
Denise, Dean, Dana
I left a condolence also on Castanet but I wanted to leave this picture here. It is exactly how I think of “Dad”. These past couple of days I’ve had just so many memories of him. From him giving me valentines to him trying to bring home fish to Burtch Rd from the Summerland fishing trip. 43 yrs of memories and I see him smiling. He touched so many people with his true Christian heart. He is going to be missed. With my Condolences Celena Simms
Oh Denise, sort of sad to hear of the loss of your dad. We always enjoyed Max- had some great conversations, and he always greeted us with a smile. Your (temporary) loss, heaven’s gain. Praaying God’s presence and His peace will bring comfort at this time.
Dear Denise, Dana, Dean and family,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this sad time. We have many fond memories of Max, especially times past of family gatherings with all the Betuzzi family sharing stories, laughter and so much fun. With love Greg and Conny Betuzzi and family.
Papa max was always in my corner! He was a family man full or wisdom knowledge and strength!! There have been countless times over the years when papa has given me nuggets of encouragement and wisdom that have stuck with me. He was dearly loved and will be missed. All my love goes out to you guys! May God bring rest and peace upon the ones who loved Papa Max so much!
To Denise, Dana, Doug and family,
Max was truly a gift from God. His peaceful gentle spirit had a way of touching your heart. Heaven will be excited to see him! Sending caring thoughts. Praying that God will comfort your hearts During this time.
Carolyn Lewis
My deepest love and condolences to you Denise, Dana, and Dean. Your dad was very special to me. He’ll be dancing with your mum again.
Dear Denise, Dana, Dean and all your families: Please accept our condolences. I will always remember your father as a kind and caring gentleman. He was a fine father, a wonderful husband to Joan and a great Cousin to our family. May the Lord our God accept him into his loving embrace and let him rest in peace,
Denise, Dayna and Dean: So sorry for your loss. Your dad was a gentle soul and will be greatly missed. God bless you all.
Dear Denise, Dana and Dean and families, We are so sorry and saddened to hear of Maxie’s passing. I have too many fond memories of your family to mention, from family reunions to fishing and hunting trips as well as other gatherings. It was always a pleasure to spend time with your Dad and Mom and the 3 of you. Our sincerest condolences and prayers are with you .during this time. He truly was remarkable person. Love from Larry, Vera, Adam Betuzzi and Justin from Heaven.
We’re so sorry to hear about cousin Max passing. Our thoughts are with you Denise, Dana, Dean and your families. Sending our love and hoping you can find strength in the happy memories.
Love, Anne and Rob
Denise, Dana, Dean and Family
Sorry to hear about the passing of your father. He was a kind man. He loved his family, his community and province as well as nature and seemed to enjoy things in life. I am sure he will be missed. Thinking of you in your loss. My condolences.
Our deepest and heartfelt condolences to Denise, Dana, Dean and their families. Uncle Max was a kind, gentle and caring person. He was always a pleasure to talk to and be around. He will be missed and I have only good memories of him as I do of your mom my auntie Joan. They are together now and that he passed peacefully and comfortably is a small bit of comfort to you.
With much sympathy,
Mike & Alison Harcus
Denise, Dana, Dean and your families,
We were so sorry to hear about Max, our heart goes out to you. We will always remember your Dad’s warm and kind smile, such a gentle man.
Take care.
Love,
Henk and Laurie
To all Max’s family and friends we send our deepest condolences on hearing of his passing. Mark O’Hara and family
We were saddened to hear of your father’s passing. He was an integral part of the extended Betuzzi family and his positive outlook helped to shape us all. He will be sorely missed. The memories will help us though the days ahead.
Love Kevin & Fay Betuzzi
Max was loved! He was a kind and loving brother-in-law and friend. I will miss him. My prayers are with the three D’s in your loss. With love Anita
Max will live on in each of us that had the true pleasure of knowing him, No one person could fill his shoes, yet we are all better for the time we had with him, my love and prays to Dana, Denise and Dean
To Dana, Denise, Dean and families; What an amazing man, father, grandfather and great-grandfather. Max was such a genuine, kind, and full of life soul. Always smiling, always busy, and always had time for you. He enriched every life he ever touched. Max will be missed! My condolences to all of you. Sending love and hugs xoxo
Dear Denise, Dana and Dean:
Max and Joan were very special friend from their Toronto days. Don and Max worked together, lived together and studied together. it was a wonderful time in our lives and we remained friends for a lifetime. We have many happy memories and send our love and prayers to you all. Sincerely Don and Barb
Our thoughts are with the family at this time
Dana, Doug, Denise, Monty, Dean & Christine
Sending love and condolences to you all from across the pond. Thinking of you and hoping to join you virtually on Saturday to give thanks for Max’s life.
From the many people at Kelowna Gospel Fellowship who have grown to love Max, our love goes out to Denise, Dana and Dean and the rest of the family. I personally have known Max since the early eighties when I helped renovate their Rutland Rd. home. I will never forget the very precise detailed sketches Max made of the brick work on the front of the house for us to follow. He loved his Lord Jesus and it spilled over to many. We will miss you Max.
Dear Dana, Doug and Family. I’ve been thinking about Max since I heard the news. The nicest praise I can give anyone is the Lord’s commandment and Max exemplified it. He loved God and he loved others as he loved himself! What a loss for yor family and our community. His enthusiasm was contagious. I loved it. Love from Karen
Our sincere sympathy to all your families at this time, We have many fond memories of growing up together.We send our thoughts and love your way. Sambrielaz and Verna Families xoxoxo
Denise, Dana & Dean,
It is with heavy heart to here of your Dads passing. He was a kind soul and always a had warm smile and a soft word to welcome you into his home. He was just as much a father to me as he was good friend. He will be missed and I will cherish the time we had together over the years.
All my Love,
Ralph
It was an absolutely beautiful service. Very fitting for Max. God bless.
It is with sadness that we learn of your passing MAX. In our memory bank, we remember the times that we spent together with our family since some of our family wer small you had an enjoyable with them. Thanks for letting us know of his passing, with blessing and condilances to the family. Fred and Barbara Corcoran
Our deepest sympathy goes out to you all.. Max was a true friend from the day we meet in Toronto over 60 years ago..
Our thoughts are with you.
Barb and Don Messaros
We are saddened at Max’s passing but are encouraged to know that he has made his way to the Eternal Kingdom where peace and joy abound. Our prayers are with his family and friends. Well done good and faithful servant.
Denise, Dana, and Dean. Words cannot begin to express my condolences for your loss. I just learned of your father’s passing -unfortunately too late to be there for the ceremony this afternoon. Both your mother and father were such warm, welcoming, and loving individuals. I first met Max and Joan in Kelowna, then in Fort St. John when Cadence and I were in Dawson Creek. Cadence still has the little bear from Joan, and has the picture of all of us on Canada Day oh so many years ago! I pray that your memories bring you comfort, I also pray that you take comfort in the fact that Max and Joan touched so many lives in such a positive and loving way, truly embodying the nature of what our heavenly father intended. Peace be with you. ❤️❤️❤️
Denis, Dean, Dana and your families, Please accept our heartfelt condolence in the passing of your dear father. We have fond memories of the times spent together with Max & Joan in Rutland and the fun camping trips. Your Dad was so kind and most considerate to include us as the extended family. His love & admiration towards his family and friends speaks volumes of the true man of God he exemplified.. Your beautiful Dad will be missed dearly by many. May the Lord place His healing hand upon each one of you as you journey through the grieving process..
Love and Prayers, Lucille, Carrie & Railene
Dear Denise, Dana and Dean,
Anna and I watched the beautiful and very moving funeral service for your Dad, yesterday. Your father was a wonderful husband to your dear mother, a great father and a very fine human being. He will be deeply missed by all who knew him and we hope he and your Mom are together again, along with other loved ones who have passed ahead of us! Be well. We look forward to seeing all of you when we can get together in person again.
Love,
Uncle Earl and Anna
To the Ongaro Family,
Dear Ongaro Family,
Max holds a special place in our hearts, Disappointed we were not able to be there in person with you. spiritually we were there with you we are glad we were able to watch the service it was a great tribute to your Dad. His kind patient spirit will never be forgotten, he lead by example, he was more then a cousin to me, he was my friend and an excellent role model. He always did find the good in people. I will always be great full that he was a part of my life. Rest In Peace Max,
Love Tim, Cecile, Dustin, Chantelle
We are saddened by Max’s passing but we know that he is surrounded by peace and joy in Heaven. Our prayers are with his family and friends. Well done good and faithful servant!
To Denise, Dana,. Dean and all of your family
We send our sincere condolences for the loss of your Dad, Grandfather and Great Grandfather. He was a good man, a very good husband, and a great father. He is the epitome of our loving family and how blessed we are to be a part of it. Like my brother Amerigo, we remember some wonderful times that we shared with Max when all our families would gather for good food , great fun and wonderful fellowship. I know he is resting peacefully. Steve Biollo and Kathy Jones.
Dear Ongaro Family,
Max was my cousin, but he was much more than that, He was a great man, he was my friend and an excellent role model, someone you admired to be like. I have so many fond memories. We will always be so grateful, he holds a very special place in our hearts that we will treasure forever.
Lots of thoughts and prayers
Love from
Tim, Cecile, Dustin, Chantelle
I was so saddened to hear of Maxi’s passing. Please know my love and prayers are with you, Dana, Denise and Dean and your families. I remember meeting Maxi and all the wonderful Betuzzi family, when I was 10 as Max and I chased each other around the wedding reception of Merrie and Chuck Betuzzi’s, when were both 10. Although I have not been nearby, through the years of visiting, I luckily had occasional visits with him and his family. He always carried that wonderful openness, friendship and kindness with him.
love
Dana Mulhern
I was so very sorry to hear of Max’s sudden passing. 😢 I would see him regularly in the last years as we both attended KGF. Such a kind and loving man he was. My daughters grew to know and love him too in their teens and early 20’s. He was like an uncle to them. We enjoyed driving up to Big White and skiing with him. Everything he did, even skiing, seemed effortless…done with grace and style. He was so very devoted to Joanie and all his family. We will all miss him here. What a blessing to have him as a dad.
I will be praying for you and the family during this difficult time. 💞Wendy
IT HAS BEEN A PLEASURE FOR BOTH LAURA & I TO BECOME CLOSE FRIENDS OF MAX. WE ENJOYED TAKING HIM EACH MONTH TO OUR KGF IMPACT DINNERS. WE SOON FOUND THAT HE LOVED SOCIALIZING WITH MANY OF THE PEOPLE HE KNEW AT THE CHURCH ON SUNDAYS. IT WAS A BLESSING FOR RON TO VISIT HIM AT THE SPRING VALLEY CARE HOME . HE LOVED IT WHEN WE TALKED ABOUT HIS CONVERSION AND HIS WALK WITH GOD OVER THE YEARS. HE LOVED TALKING ABOUT HOW GOD HAD BLESSED HIM WITH A WONDERFUL CHRISTIAN WIFE AND ALSO THAT THEIR CHILDREN WERE SERVING THE LORD. MAX ALWAYS HAD A HEARTY HAND SHAKE AND SMILE FOR EVERYONE HE MET.
LOVE AND PRAYERS TO ALL HIS FAMILY.
Max, you will be dearly missed by our entire family.
We are so sorry to hear about the loss of you father ,grandfather and friend to many.David and I had the privilege to often pick him up for Church and Impact .Our fondest memories we have of Max when we went on an Alaskan Cruise.He was a person very much interested in your Life every day and spiritual.May the memories you have as family be a comfort to you all.We know that he is happy to be in heaven.He is leaving a great legacy behind .You are blessed as family !
Dear Denise , Dana , Dean, and families,
I was sad to learn of your Dad’s passing. My condolences to all of you.
I have some good memories of times spent in Happy Valley with Uncle Kay, Aunt Mary, Max & Jo Ann , during
our Summer holidays .We had so much fun !
Max was an amazing person in many ways ; to me he was a special cousin and I shall miss him.
What a beautiful tribute to your dad Denise.
Our love and prayers are with you.