Q: Is there a normal response to losing a loved one?

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- Ramona Sousa


Goodness gracious. I don’t know what normal would look like. I don’t know if my grief when my dad died was normal. I just know that I had it, and that I wanted to embrace it, and that I wanted it to be real, and I wanted it to go deep.

I would say there are some common experiences, some common emotions, such as sadness or anger, bewilderment. But not everybody experiences those. I remember visiting a lady – about 3 weeks after her husband passed – and I said, “How are you ma’am?”

She said, “Great! He’s dead!”

He’d been not so nice a man. So for her relief was a huge part of his, his passing.

No two people are the same. We are unique human beings. We all had a unique relationship to the persons who’s passed. So we are all going to grieve differently. There isn’t grief if there wasn’t love. Love without a place to go, a place to find expression is really what the grief reaction and response is.

There is a whole range of emotions that people feel and my goal is not to, not to tell them what they should or shouldn’t be feeling, but to find out what they are feeling and accept that and walk with them in that.